The Incomplete Love. 

“I have been in love, yes, I have tasted of its magical savor. I have eaten of its enchanting fruits, and have been held sway by its mesmerizing bliss. I have danced under the open sky, and have experienced my heart been melted with every touch of a raindrop. I have kissed a thousand times, but did all that on  just one lips, and I have loved in thousand ways, but did all that with just one soul. In all these things, I found, love becomes a blessing when the heart trusts who it loves.” 

These were the words of a much other person I have come to respect and to value in this short life I have lived. Interestingly, as the words flowed from her lips, like streams of water from a rock, I couldn’t help but notice, in between her words, Love is indeed beautiful, but trust is a different universe of its own.

Have you ever loved so deeply and so true, that you swore you could step into a building engulfed with flames if ever asked to prove the measure of your love for someone, but somewhere within, you have this reservation that the one you so much love may not do the same or value your sacrifice? Or have you ever loved so genuinely, but for fear of being stranded in the middle of nowhere or not being understood, you restrict your openness and honesty about a certain past or a situation? Sincerely speaking, it is no child’s play to completely trust someone. 

Now the question, Can love exist without trust? 

The answer, most certainly, yes, it can, and quite frankly, it does exist among us these days. 

Don’t be too perplexed at what you get when ask if there is a difference between love and trust, because the answer is a simple yes; for while trust is very much possible without love, love is incomplete without it, though it may exist. 

Now let’s think for a moment. 

Love is a bliss, love is magical. Love is mystical, love is divine. Love is enduring, love is kind. Love is not arrogant, love is not selfish. Love is selfless, love is endless. Love is pure, love is true. Love is enchanting, love is mesmerizing. Love is beautiful, and love is an epitome of perfection, but with all these savory fruits of love, do you often wonder why we find it quite difficult to enjoy the total package love has to offer?

The truth is, love will always be incomplete without trust. 

See, it is very possible for us to profess our undying love or affection to another, but when push comes to shove, and we are asked to make a sacrifice to prove the statement of our love, we often find it very easy to retreat back into our shells, wishing we hadn’t made an open statement of our affection. Most times, though our hearts and minds be willing to stand by our words, our heads keeps telling us to do otherwise because we become so unsure if our love is worth the sacrifices we are about to make. It is not because we don’t love that person, it is simply because, love, as we see it, is easy, but trust on the other hand has a heavy price, one we are so reluctant to pay. 

This is the simple truth why many, if not most, unions don’t and won’t stand the test of time.

It is not because there is no more love, or lack of the sparks of wild passion coursing through our bodies, it is not because there was an error committed, or the lack of communication somewhere in the middle, no, quite frankly, it is because we haven’t being able to trust ourselves not to hurt each other. 

I may claim to love you so deeply and so true, but for the fear of you hurting me, I may decide to place a restriction on the measure of love I display, not because I don’t love you as much as I claim, but because I am trying to protect myself from being hurt. This is the state of our minds today, probably because of a past experience or a lesson taught by other people, but what we fail to understand is that, until we fully trust who we love, we will always struggle to find the meaning of complete happiness. 

For where incomplete love stops, trust will go far, and where incomplete love makes a promise, trust will bring it home. Where incomplete love sings its song, trust will be its melody, and when incomplete love make plans for the future, trust will bring it to reality. 

Love, like my friend will say, is giving someone the opportunity to hurt you, but trust is believing they won’t. 

And in all honesty, when it comes between love and trust, love is the easier pick among the two, but more accurately, love is never complete without trust. 

Folly

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27 thoughts on “The Incomplete Love. 

  1. I am a physician and I work with addiction patients of all types. I think that love can absolutely exist without trust. My job is to try to help people rebuild their internal boundaries against the drug, by setting up external boundaries. This is work of love that requires that I not trust…..

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    • But how can they allow you to help them if they don’t trust you? How can they freely surrender to your advice and comfort if they don’t believe you are capable of leading them through the dark path? When you look at it like this, you realize that at the end of the day, love may exist, but it is never truly complete without trust.

      Thank you for this comment. Really appreciate.

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          • But that blames the victim doesn’t it? If you truly believed, you would get better. My sister fought breast cancer for 7 years and asked if since she had relapsed, it was her failure?

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          • Trust brings confidence, and most times, our bodies and lives responds to that inherent confidence. See it thus way, we don’t know the end of everything or of our journey, but having a little faith or trust is saying, I have a hope of a better end, even though most times, our end doesn’t always turns out to be what we expected. It still doesn’t mean we should all together cast aside trust from our lives.

            As for your sister, though I have no medical experience, I believe there are some things we have no power over, but what keeps us going is the strength of our belief and a hope of a brighter end. My heart goes out to your sister, because I have lost mine to the same fight.

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          • I don’t get to decide nor judge. People die. All I do is try to help and to comfort, but each person will die eventually no matter what…..I have faith that people can change but I also know that they don’t always make that choice.

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  2. OMG! I read this like a 100 times over, and still, I am awed by the beauty embedded in this piece. The way I feel now is quite indescribable because you have touched a very important part of the soul. This is exhilarating. Love it.

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  3. I just write something sort of along on the blog today. A lot of us don’t know what love is really about.

    It’s only when push comes to shove and sacrifices have to be made that we would know what love really is.

    Thanks for this Endurance, very lovely read.

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    • Exactly! It is such a pity that the lack of trust is quite able to destroy something so beautiful, and something so precious. It is that little fox that destroys our field.

      Thank you for your comment, it is refreshing.

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