Does My Past Really Matter?
Often times, if not all the time, we hear people say to us, “forget about the past, look to the future”, or we hear, “the past is gone, and there is nothing you can do about it but you can determine what happens next” or something like, “the past can’t be rewritten, but the future can be designed” and while all these are true in some sense, we find ourselves, sometimes, fighting with a shadow of our yesterday, and we begin to ask ourselves if the past is really gone.
Everyone is hopeful for a beautiful tomorrow, and we are all looking forward for a brighter future, but most times we forget that this Life is a process, and one of its rule is for action there will be a reaction, and most times, the actions of our yesterday will have a profound consequence on our today and tomorrow whether they be good our bitter.
Now you may ask, does this mean that all my mistakes of the past will come to haunt me? What of those who survived a horrible past, and made a nice future for themselves, how do you explain that?
Think of this life as a notebook. As you write on the pages of the book, you turn over to a fresh page to either continue or for a fresh start, but even as we write on the new page of this book, we don’t suddenly tear off what we have written in the pervious page even if we don’t like it. That page had been written, and guess what, it is always there for a reference.
Now that is how our lives are. A new day, a new course of action, a new idea, these are all fresh pages of our lives, a new opportunity to start over or to continue with whatever we were doing, but as much as we want to believe that we can start over, and forget some horrible yesterdays ever happen, the truth is our yesterday is still a big part of us, and whether we like it or not, these are what makes us who we are, and these yesterdays are our sources of reference.
Our mistakes, our errors, our shortcomings, our defeats, our triumphs, our success, our good deeds, all these are what makes us who we are, they give us our identities, they are the stuff that prepares us for whatever we get tomorrow, and attempting to throw them all away is like discarding who we are into the bin.
Now to the question, does my past really matter? Well, my answer is Yes, but don’t let it stop you.
Our problem lies in the fact that we see our past as a hindrance to our future. Our pasts are what have made us become who we are, whether good choices or not, they are part of us, and at some point, the consequences of our actions will surely pop up, but our victory lies in us accepting who we have become by recognizing the lessons taught by our yesterdays.
So I say, Embrace your past, don’t let it stop you. Accept what have been, and use it to become what you want. Learn the lesson, and run with the knowledge. Don’t allow the fear of your past tie you down in failure, make peace with it, and if eventually you are due to pay the consequences of your actions, face it, accept it, learn from it, and use it to be what you desire.
Yes, the past matters, but don’t let it stop you.
This is just my personal thought, if you ask me, Do my past really matter? Well, I will leave that for you for answer.